Every life is a journey to achieve self actualization – the ultimate aim. The ability to understand and manage self, develop good relationships with others and to handle situation effectively are vital elements of being a successful and effective person. To lead a fruitful and content life one should understand the very purpose of life.
Everyone strive to achieve happiness, contentment and success in their lives, however not many are able to make it. Here are few tips to improve yourself and be a better you.
Tip 1 - Self Awareness
Everything starts from you and therefore it is very important to know about yourselves. Self awareness is the starting point of your journey to success. You must know who you are, how you have been perceived by others, the image you would like to project and how to establish it, your personality and ego status and goals and actions. Self awareness helps you to identify your talents, emotions, skills and it also helps you to develop new skills in life. Once you are clearly aware of your present personality, you can lay the foundation for development and start working to achieve success in every areas of your life. Lack of self awareness can lead to inefficiency, waste of talents and failure in life.
Tip 2 Knowing your Roles and Responsibilities
You play numerous roles and responsibilities in your day-to-day life and it changes in accordance with the different stages of your life. Each of these roles comes with certain expectations and you should be effectively meeting them to become successful in the given role. To become an effective person it is important to understand your responsibilities and the accepted level of performance for each role. Roles and expectation management are the necessary skills to achieve self satisfaction and get a place in your loved one’s heart as well as in the work place and society. Any problem in this area can lead to stress and feeling of inferiority.
Tip 3 Own your Actions
How many of you are good in taking decisions and own your actions and its consequences. You may tend to blame anything and everything outside and around you for your failures and unpleasant consequences. Unless and until you own your decisions and take responsibilities for your actions, your life is never going to be any better than what you are currently experiencing. You must acknowledge your blunders together with your brilliance. Get out of the blaming culture and start evaluating every incidence and start learning from experiences. This will help you to achieve excellence in life.
Tip 4 Count your blessings
How many of you have counted the blessings you received in your life; not many, because it is the human nature to point out negatives and complain about every thing what we don’t have. To become effective in your life try concentrating on your positives and work on them. Counting your blessings will create positive energy and you will be more effective and satisfied in your life.
Tip 5 Welcome Criticisms
Not many of you will like to get criticized, however, you must understand that the constructive criticisms will help you to evaluate yourself and improve your skills. Do not react emotionally to criticisms, rather consider it as a useful feedback and take what is essential and leave the rest. If the criticism is not genuine, ignore it and go minding your own business. If handled rightly, criticisms can make you a strong and better person.
Tip 6 Let go the Past
There are people who feel cherished or upset about the past and they spend their life dwelling on these memories. They either feel great about their ancestor’s achievements or blame them for today’s sufferings; both will harm your productivity. It is important to move ahead in your life by leaving the past behind. You must learn from past, live today and hope for tomorrow. This is the best way to lead a content life.
Tip 7 Do what you fear the most
Don't go the way life takes you, but, take the life the way you go. To be successful and effective, it is important to leave your comfort zone and face what to you fear. If you play too safe; the result also will be slow and mediocre. You should have the courage to face the challenges to achieve your goals in life.
Tip 8 Be healthy
It is very important for you to be healthy to lead a fruitful life and achieve everything you want in your life. Being healthy means possessing a healthy body and mind, developing healthy communication, having a healthy attitude and a strong personality. Your mental health is far more important than you physical health as once you are strong in your mind everything is possible in your life.
Tip 9 Have Self Respect
If you don’t respect yourself, do not expect it from others. To become effective, you should first love yourself, value yourself and trust yourself. This will boost your self confidence and subsequently you will achieve success in your life.
Tip 10 Be yourself
You should understand the fact that you are the unique creation of God and there is no another person like you. Your personality, physical features, abilities and talents are only for you and you should be the master of your life. Understand the purpose of your life and try to achieve it. Design your life and do what you enjoy doing and most importantly be yourself.
Look within yourself and understand what you want in your life and have the right focus. Remember you are born to live and not living because you are born.
It is the poor performance that often leads to stress and anxiety. When you face challenges, think about the skills you could learn to increase your competence. It is very important to understand what your emotions are telling you as emotions are secondary in nature and there will always be a causative factor behind every emotion. To become effective in life; you should attend to these causative factors and should not surrender to your emotions and don’t let them rule you.
Be the master of your life and direct it with confidence. If confused or stuck seek professional help.
